It has been a long year of 2008 for me, and many a times, I've taken it upon myself to ensure the happiness of some people very close to me. A number of times this year have I put aside my choice of happiness to try and help someone else be happy. What have I found out? It doesn't work.
A friend once shared, "Don't allow someone to become a priority in your life ... when you are an option in theirs". Just like although friends can try to pull us out of unhappiness, only we ourselves can truly be happy in whatever situation we are. Same goes for others... friends whom we try to so hard to do what we feel would make the person happy, may not necessarily make them happy. In fact, sometimes, it may just have the opposite effect, depending on how the person has their views on you.
Forget about the responsibility of making people around you happy. Be happy first, and let that spread and share to others. The subtle happiness irradiating from you will do more, than the intentional acts of trying to please everyone.
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well i agree that one good idea of making people around happy is BEING happy yourself...it's definitely not the only way to make others happy.
ReplyDeletelistening to others' problems, telling a joke, crying with them (ironic but helps), being even sadder than them also works...tried and tested before. -kimberly